11 November 2011, 19:58    | |
Bhaskar for SOCIAL JUSTICELegal & Social Activist | Suppose wife stays for very short period and desert the husband on flimsy grounds and husband tried his best to bring her through friends and relatives and ultimately files divorce then can wife ask fore share/alimony. |
| 12 November 2011, 05:18 | |
Alok Tholiya | Wife will leave matri home for long for some reason which normally are grave / serious : 1. Majorly wrong with man or his family 2. She her self having some affair or similar reasons 3. She is having some psychological or physiological reason and is unable to enjoy physical relations. She needs to be shown to a psychiatrist / gyneac/ s*xologist as per her ailment which makes her fear from s*x / relationship. If 2 is true then u have to act accordingly. If 2 is suspected then u have to appoint detective and gather evidence. But normally if 2 nd reason is true then no one from her maternal home will support her and rather will force her to go back. It is not easy to live in maternal home for any girl . So we come back to 1. Is man a man? Is she feeling unsecured and threatened for her security? Is she forced to do something immoral?? Is she beaten by wife beater or bride beater in laws? Have in laws lied heavily and shown rosy pictures to her before marriage? Is husband having illicit relations?? Does he have relation with some one in own family or office like bhabahi / PA/ neighbor/ boss / colleague etc etc?? And there r many unknown / hidden reasons but which r grave for her but miniscule for husband. Untolerable to her but negligible to her husband. So difference widens. The negotiators and those who have gone to her are themselves weak. Spineless. Courage less. Sick and weak. If they were capable then they should first found the truth due to which started the cold war , they would have gone deep in to issues affecting relations with judged the issues from good social norms or from the affected parties norms and not from their own convenient norms. Say if a officer is corrupt and u go to higher up to complaint then what will be fate of your complaint?? In front of my house where a Chinese food stall comes up ever evening and works till 4 am and disturbs the whole locality. Once the citizens united and made a joint written complaint. With in one hour he came with group of goons with xerox of our complaint and threatened the whole locality and declared that police and municipal corporation both are in his pocket. So can u get right results from conscious less , sold out , morally weak mediators??? No?? So u have not sent mediators but those who can impose your dictates and she should agree to that?? Not true?? Then if u r in Mumbai give come and see me and I can resolve the issue but then any one on wrong foot will have to either mend his / her way or be punished. This is called independent impartial mediation. There r a saying in Hindi khud ka padya ghana bhaya means when u urself release badly smelling gas / fart u never run away from there but when others do then u become intolerant and run away from that scene.Most often a war escalates is not because other person is that bad but because we fail to acknowledge our own follies and how deep can be scars on others for same. A group of wrong doers do not find any serious issues in that, a family of drunkards does not find wrong in that, a group of liers say lies like they are saying prayers, those boys who use bad words habitually do not find anything wrong in that but the other person may take it as a very untolerable serious offense and shock and disgust and feel cheated if these things are new to him/her. If one understands views and resentments of other person not with own yardstick but with acceptable society norms or by other persons expectations and mends his / her way then most conflicts can be avoided. Are u ready to fall in line??? Then contact me for resolution. |
Thanks and Regards,
Alok Tholiya,
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