Abhishek ( unknown to me) on Karmayog which is a largest yahoogroups of intellectuals, NGO's,teachers, professors, doctors,advocates,activists and run by a leading Industrial house member Shri Vinay Somani. It has more then 60000 members but read by more then that.
Abhishek wrote on this group his concerns about marital issues. Here is my reply: Pl. read and comment on same .........Alok
1. U have not mentioned how old is ur marriage, whether u have children, whether she is earning?
2. Whether both of u have satisfying physical relationship?
Still I will try to reply:
1. Involve more panchas from her side, neighbors and ur relatives and ur community who have very high good will and respect.
2. Keep voice recorder ( all good mobile have voice recorder, call recorder, video recorder)
3. Teach using spy gadgets to all in family and record what u all say and she says. This can be used as strong evidence in case u have to.
4 Write a mail / letter to her parents with copy to VIP panchas and clarify your stand.
5. If parents are only problem write now then avoid them for few years. She will become matured in time to come but do not go near / do anything to wild animal when you know it will bite you.
6. Most family disaster happen because there is lack of spiritualism.And understand that there is lot of difference between ritualism and spiritualism. Ritualism tries to fool self and god where as spiritualism tries to give enlightenment and understanding. Try to listen to Osho, Sadhu Wasvani, Tao,kabir,Jain sadhus, Chinmiayananda mission etc.. Also try to go for counseling to good counselor/ psychologist.
7. Buy / subscribe to good magazines,books,cassettes which will ( if u are lucky) will create some curiosity in her to read and listen and may bring some check.
8. Request your sisters and mother to give her flowers, gift, items which she likes time to time. If they can not afford then u give them quietly and in turn they gift her.
9. If u have not taken her out for dinner, outing,film etc etc then do it now. And note it all has to be in ur decent budget. Don't become spendthrift or spender or make it too often.
10. If u have understanding and reliable friend / relative then they can call both of u to spend time together.
11. Lastly do self examination about yourself and your parents whether really there is something needing improvement. It is human nature that we only find fault in others and ignore ours and think we are what we are the bahu/ bride/ wife / mother / servants must bear all our manias, tantrums,bad habits/ loose character and that they should not have own dignity.
There are many other small small things but which can bridge a huge gap. Try your best and save your marriage and life time companionship and happiness.
If need be then u may write back to me on my id or on Karmayog. Pl. do not try to call on mobile or in person as time is very big constraint.
Alok
www.womendignity.blogspot.com
www.aloktholiya.blogspot.com
--- In karmayog@yahoogroups.com, <abhishekkaushi@...> wrote:
>
> Subject: "Needed" Help in case
>
> Main Point: Mental Harassment from wife
>
> Category of Topic: Miscellaneous
>
> Message: Dear Sir / Madam,
>
> This is to inform you that now a days I am getting lost of mental
> pressure from my wife named Meenakshi Mishra Kaushik and her family
> which includes 2 sisters(Mamta Mishra & Sharda Mishra), mother and
> father.
>
> On 6th May 2011, she had a fight with my mother and made police
> complaint against me and my three sisters. She don't want to live with
> my parents even they visit to us twice in a year for a single month.
>
> On 15th June 2011 me, my wife and our family member including mediator
> were trying to resolve the matter but she denied and abuse my family and
> threatened me that I'll make dowry case as well as any false case
> against me and my family.
>
> So for the precautionary measure I am just informing you before any
> thing goes against me.
>
> Abhishek Kaushik
> E-mail. abhishekkaushi@...
>
>
>
> Help Needed: I do not file any case against my wife but can not
> leave my parents alone
>
> Name: Abhishek
>
> Location: Kharghar
>
> Email 1: abhishekkaushi@...
>
> Click here <http://www.karmayog.org/messages/message.aspx?id=4541> to
> Reply
>
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