-: [rti4empowerment] Kshamavani "The ‘Forgiveness day" celebrated every year by Jains.....

This article was written / redrafted by me on the Kshamavani Parva just prior to Dethroning of President Saddam. I cud not get time to redraft as per present situation around.The mail still stands good for all of us. .....Alok

Kshamavani (The 'Forgiveness day' celebrated once a year) is the

festival of Jains. This festival gives an occasion to leave the ego and
history behind and improve relations, re-establish communications by
forgiving and forgetting. I strongly wish that President Saddam can use this
opportunity and seek pardon from world for knowingly or unknowingly hurting
world community, and extend full cooperation to inspection team. Then whole
world would feel thankful, relived and obliged. Great Iraqi citizens can
then participate in constructive way in making Iraq a modern dynamic country
as if we see Dubai, Singapore, Hongkong, Korea etc. etc. Alternatively, due
to lack of heart and vision, and due to personal ego he may choose to bring
disaster to many a country as well to Iraqis themselves who will be pushed
hundred years behind. I request countries close to Iraq to send high-level
deputation (heads of top 10 countries as well as top spiritual leaders) to
Mr. Saddam and bring about awakening and respectable solution. Those who can
help in reducing the tension if remain willfully quite will be bigger sinner
than those driven by lust of power and money (as they are overpowered by
their madness/obsession).I wish if Musharrfji too does that and helps Pak
and India to follow the path of progress. And I am sure he wishes to bring
normalcy and good relations but China will not let this happen who does not
want to loosen the noose from puppet rather China has greater designs and we
see its effects now in Nepal too. It was RDX from China, which melted WTC in
minutes. It is AK47 from china, which has been used in all terrorist
activities, hijacking and black mailing. Give peace a chance this Kshamavani
Day.

Forgiveness/ Kshamavani – A Real stress Buster

The most humorous thing about forgiveness is that when people
forgive someone, they think they are doing him a favour. Wake up. You are
receiving the biggest favour. Let me explain: Do you know science has
already proven that harboured resentments, hate, hurt, guilt, etc., cause a
depletion in your own system, often leading to disease and self-anguish. It
would frighten people to know how much their pent-up angers, resentments,
and guilt is depleting their systems, causing them the lack of peace they
blame others for creating. If you want peace, fun and zest for living, you
have to learn to maintain your mental and emotional nature the same as a
doctor helps to maintain your physical. There are many tools for doing that
but forgiveness is the only tool available always & free.

For those non-Jains, pl. do not perceive forgiveness & or begging a
pardon as something just religious or spiritual. Look at it in a business
sense - smart business. In an act of forgiveness, you especially come out
good because you release that disease-producing energy from your system.
These energies produce hormones that toxify your mental, emotional and
physical system. Forgiveness is just a process of re-balancing your internal
energy distortions to recreate a harmonious flow between yourself and
others. The trick is you have to forgive from the "heart". A common mistake
is that people try to forgive from the "head", and then find that the same
resentments keep popping up repeatedly. People think they have forgiven
others and realize later that they resent even more. It does not mean that
you are bad when this happens; it is just a matter of learning more about
your system and, especially, the difference between the heart and the head.
The heart forgives; the head makes empty promises that do not reach
completion. Completion is seriously important because if you leave a crack
in the door, negative thoughts and emotions can blow it off the hinges.
Heart intelligence clearly helps you to understand that forgiveness and
seeking pardon are especially for your own mental and emotional maintenance.

One would pursue anything for own benefit. I am not implying that
forgiveness does not benefit the other person but you are the primary
beneficiary when you forgive someone. And if you realize this then you will
have more incentive to complete the act of forgiveness at the heart level &
this will benefit the other person too as it causes relief in other person
too who is most often your own near & dear one. Then, everyone wins! It's
okay to forgive someone for self-benefits because you have to love and
respect your own energies before you are truly effective in facilitating
someone else's needs. The prime message is that forgiveness is not some
little churchy act you put on to do someone else a favour. Both parties
receive an increase in their energy bank account. Forgiving and forgetting
the old hurts and hate & guilt from your system are like taking a mental and
emotional Ganga bath. You bath regularly your body but forget to bath
soul/conscience & store negative toxic junk in your mental and emotional
psyche for years without a clean up. Trust me, it taxes your system. It is
really the mental and emotional bath you need daily. That is where your
happiness and quality of life are registered.

Yet, another humorous situation is that while you are still
poisoning your own system & doing damage to yourself, the people you hate or
resent do not even know about it. It is especially you that you are
punishing. Again, I'm not talking religion, I am not talking Jainism I'm
talking business - the business of your own self-health - "street sense!" It
is about preventative maintenance that can keep the doctor bills down and
keep your happiness and fun up. Be careful of falling in the trap of
justified hate because it's really you that's taking the lashing. If it
sounds like I'm overly intent on this one point, it may be you that needs to
hear it one more time so that you might just hear it for the first time.

Once you really hear it from the heart, here is how you can do
yourself a favour, a big one: List all the people, organizations, issues or
anything you hold hate and resentments against. Then make a serious effort
from the heart to release those negative frequencies from your system and
replace it with heart intelligence. Heart intelligence would ask you, why
drain your life and junk up your system just because someone else is out to
phase out his own life? It may be hard for you to put out love for someone
who has offended you but you can sure "smarten up" and at least release
yourself from the negative feedback loop created when resenting others and
yourself. Forgiveness is a featured aspect of self-management, yet
self-management is not featured in most people's day-to-day agenda. I'm well
aware that some situations are deeply rooted with hurt and pain caused by
others. Still for the sake of your own health and the people around you,
it's worth going deeper in the heart and finally releasing that negative
junk. I know this would sound disgusting but there is no more choice. Of
course, in some cases, you can create an environment & sit down & tell the
other person that you justifiably feel hurt & that he should desist in
mutual benefit from repeating the mistake. However, the trick is not to
expect him to change but definitely give him one fair chance to improve by
pardoning once. If this content sparks any "make-sense" within you and you
decide to consider forgiving more and suffering less, then do it from the
heart! The heart is where you will tap the power of care. It's the care that
is missing in people's efforts of good intentions. Care is love in different
degrees and potencies. Turn on the shower in your heart and rain love. Send
heart and love energy into the world if you really want to play an effective
part in cleaning up the planetary stress-mess.

Finally, yet importantly, do not forget self-forgiveness as
self-punishment defies intelligence and especially common sense. Your heart
truth would know that self-punishment could cause more harm to you than the
wrong you did. Forget self-punishment, pick up the pieces, forgive yourself
and move on from there. However very critical point to be noted hears is
that you should not repeat such serious mistakes that caused you feel so
much guilty otherwise, there is no use of forgiveness.

Self-forgiveness followed by strict self restraint, discipline,
caution, vigilance brings your mental and emotional energy systems back into
balance or else either you fall sick with guilt biting you from within every
minute of the day or you become shameless hardcore criminal / offender doing
the same offending act again & again. Do yourself favour, My dear, ease up
on yourself. If you have something eating on you inside, then talk it out,
work it out, release it & improve & change yourself. Just get it out because
it is like an energy vampire guaranteed to drain daily a percentage of your
life's enjoyment potentials.

Forgiveness has been around for quite awhile & some have been
practicing too. However, you can know it in your "head" for years but the
knowledge does not turn into wisdom until you have heard and applied it from
the heart. Play with it for a while and you can secretly realize that much
of the stress you have been experiencing could have easily been avoided. It
was just a matter of listening to and following what you already know. It's
actually fun to start experiencing the power of your own self-management
that leads to self-empowerment as you are then more refined, more alive,
more spotless, more attuned & great listener of your heart. The true
Kshamavani can brighten up your life even more than a smile. Why? Because
many times smiles are used to cover up what is not cleaned up.

So go ahead, all out give up what suffocates you & your life &
forgive & forget self & others. Have fun with it.

So here, I offer hardik kshama (pardoning) & expect same from you
the lion hearted,

Alok Tholiya

N.B.: Person repeating mistake consciously does not deserve any
forgiveness & should be dealt with suitably.